New York Times bestselling author Dr. Warren Farrell reveals solutions to the seven most important barriers to sustaining loveâpractices that have helped thousands of real couples rediscover their "soul mate" spark.
When Dr. Farrell began teaching couplesâ communication 30 years ago, he taught the wisdom of not being defensive in response to criticism. However, when a couple returned home and a criticism inevitably appeared, that wisdom disappeared. Couples needed to not just be taught this, but to practice both in the workshop and at home.
With the help of decades of post-workshop feedback from real couples, Farrell perfected six mindsets that the couples found most effective to embrace criticism as an opportunity to feel more deeply lovedâeven while they are being criticized. Role Mate to Soul Mate guides couples on how to do this for two hours per week as a âCaring and Sharing Practice.â For the other 166 hours, couples create a âConflict-Free Zoneâ the other 166 hours, which requires preventing criticisms from becoming conflicts.
To do this, youâll learn how to:
⢠Appreciate your loved one with five levels of specificity, both creatively and consistently
⢠Transform the âFour Depleters of Loveâ (Criticisms, Complaining, Complacency, and Controlling) into ways to deepen love
⢠Master the eleven âSoulmate Wisdomsâ
⢠Play together, because âcouples that play together stay togetherâ
⢠Create win-win solutions to your stickiest problems
⢠Apply your new skills to family, friends, colleaguesâand even political opponents
Since falling in love is natural but sustaining love is unnatural, making these skills come naturally requires an evolutionary shift that is both an art and a discipline. The Role Mate to Soul Mate reward? A deeper, dynamic, and lifelong love.
New York Times bestselling author Dr. Warren Farrell reveals solutions to the seven most important barriers to sustaining loveâpractices that have helped thousands of real couples rediscover their "soul mate" spark.
When Dr. Farrell began teaching couplesâ communication 30 years ago, he taught the wisdom of not being defensive in response to criticism. However, when a couple returned home and a criticism inevitably appeared, that wisdom disappeared. Couples needed to not just be taught this, but to practice both in the workshop and at home.
With the help of decades of post-workshop feedback from real couples, Farrell perfected six mindsets that the couples found most effective to embrace criticism as an opportunity to feel more deeply lovedâeven while they are being criticized. Role Mate to Soul Mate guides couples on how to do this for two hours per week as a âCaring and Sharing Practice.â For the other 166 hours, couples create a âConflict-Free Zoneâ the other 166 hours, which requires preventing criticisms from becoming conflicts.
To do this, youâll learn how to:
⢠Appreciate your loved one with five levels of specificity, both creatively and consistently
⢠Transform the âFour Depleters of Loveâ (Criticisms, Complaining, Complacency, and Controlling) into ways to deepen love
⢠Master the eleven âSoulmate Wisdomsâ
⢠Play together, because âcouples that play together stay togetherâ
⢠Create win-win solutions to your stickiest problems
⢠Apply your new skills to family, friends, colleaguesâand even political opponents
Since falling in love is natural but sustaining love is unnatural, making these skills come naturally requires an evolutionary shift that is both an art and a discipline. The Role Mate to Soul Mate reward? A deeper, dynamic, and lifelong love.